You may seek counselling because of a crisis, or you may be encouraged to seek counselling by family members, friends or colleagues. Whatever your reason is for seeking counselling below are some frequently asked questions to help the process of starting easier.
Frequently asked questions
How confidential is counselling?
Counselling is very confidential. Being able to trust your counsellor and know that he/she can keep confidence is a significant aspect of counselling. Only in exceptional circumstances, such as harm to yourself or vulnerable other that it would ever be necessaryt for me to share information. I would always discuss what I would need to share before I did.
How many counselling sessions do I need?
Counselling is a process and it is not always easy to guess how many sessions are required for every individual, the length will very much depend on your unique circumstances and needs. Keep in mind that once you start sessions, new issues and angles can arise you were not aware existed which may lead you to want to explore more.
How long does each session last?
Sessions are for 50 minutes adults one to one, 45 minutes under 21 and 60 minutes for couple counselling.
What happens in a session?
There is no typical counselling session. At the beginning we will go through our contract, discuss your expectations and what you would hope to achieve from counselling. I am interested to know what it is like being you, your life and your story. This might mean talking about your current self and how issues may be affecting your know or reflecting back to past experiences and how these may have a bearing on how you are feeling. Or it might mean discussing an addiction or certain behaviour in a way that you have not previously been able to. Whatever happens in therapy, you won't be judged, instead you will be listened to in an encouraging way where you and your experience and choices will be treated with respect and positive regard.
How do I know which counsellor is best for me?
In order for counselling to be effective, it is important you work with a counsellor that you feel you can trust. Counselling is very much about the relationship between counsellor and client and at the first meeting both yourself and myself will have the opportunity to honestly decide if you will benefit from having counselling with me.
Why do I need to attend weekly sessions?
Through experience of working with many clients, I find that weekly sessions, certainly during the first 6 weeks, helps you make gradual and steady progress and for a relationship and trust to build. However, this can be entirely up to you as certain conditions such as finances or work commitments may mean weekly sessions are not feasible.